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7 Core Issues in Adoption & Permanency: Mastery & Control
All of the unidentified, un-named, unacknowledged and un-grieved losses can create intense feelings of powerlessness and loss of control. Mastery over one’s life circumstances has been lost at some point by all members of the constellation. Everyone lost some power...
7 Core Issues in Adoption & Permanency: Intimacy
Intimacy requires an individual to know who they are and what they need in relationships and believe that they have value. Individuals’ most primary motivation is the drive to belong and learn how to get their emotional needs met through human connections. Intimate...
7 Core Issues in Adoption & Permanency: Identity
If constellation members have acknowledged and identified their losses, examined feelings or fears of rejection, become aware of any issues connected to shame and guilt, and addressed their grief process, they have the opportunity to build a cohesive identity that...
7 Core Issues in Adoption & Permanency: Grief
The profound losses that created feelings or fears of rejection, which led to the emotions of shame and guilt, must be grieved. Adoption and permanency losses are too often left unnamed, unacknowledged, and ungrieved. The losses may be difficult to acknowledge and...
7 Core Issues in Adoption. & Permanency: Shame & Guilt
Rejection leads to feelings of shame and/or guilt. Shame and guilt impact an individual’s self-esteem and self-worth and may create anxiety. Shame is maladaptive, while guilt is generally an adaptive emotion. Shame relates to self, guilt to others. Shame is the...
7 Core Issues in Adoption. & Permanency: Rejection
Constellation members’ core losses are most often experienced as a form of social rejection. Rejection is a perceived loss of social acceptance, group inclusion or a sense of belonging. Rejection can be real, imagined, or implied. People get their most basic needs met...
7 Core Issues in Adoption & Permanency: Loss
Loss begins the journey. It is crisis and/or trauma that create the circumstances that lead to the necessity of adoption and permanency. The crises of an unplanned pregnancy, rape, incest, poverty, addiction, divorce, mental illness, war or a country’s crisis that...
7 Core Issues in Adoption & Permanency
From: North American Council on Adoptable Children www.nacac.org Adoption, foster and kinship care are important resources for addressing the needs of children in crisis. The majority of adoptions today originate from foster care and kinship caregiving, which...
Picture This
We decided to do something a little different this year. We started the year off with a team-building exercise before youth trained for the Youth Speak Out (YSO) training in the beginning of October. We reached out to Saskatoon Community Youth Arts Programming...
Top 10 Tips for Adoptive Parenting, Social Media, Birth Parent Contact
1. Talk with your kids about adoption, early and often. Don’t stop the discussion when your child hits the uncommunicative tween and teens. Adoption should be a topic that everyone in your family feels comfortable to discuss. This resource page from Creating a Family...